Why build a fortress?

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
~John Lennon~

This year, I am making a commitment  to ask critical questions before I act.  I mean, powerful ones that require me to get silent, go inward and follow my heart.

One of the most powerful ones– is birthed out of such a quote from John Lennon.

I commit to ask…

Do I act today from fear or love?

The fear, I talk about here today is not ‘healthy fear’.  I believe, ‘healthy fear’, the kind that protects you from harm, is indeed birthed from love always.

The fear I am calling myself on is NOT that type.

This fear comes from the past always.  It is NEVER forward thinking.

When I act from fear- I know it!

It is not guided from my inner heart but from my ego.  Internally, I don’t trust myself and not even my source.  From this fearful state, I can make all kinds of excuse, become paralyzed, get real mad, blame others and cut off my love.  Have you ever done that?

Sure you have!

I shrink inside.  I feel it internally.  It keeps me from acting from my authentic self and source.

Do you find that fear is becoming the ‘normal’ in your life?  Do you secretly remain grounded in your past, terrified the same might happen again?  Be honest?  Has this ever happened?   Sure it has!   All of us do it… from our humanity.  But, divinely, we can move towards love.  Indeed, as John Lennon stressed, we can evolve.  We can accept, be imperfect and create!

REMEMBER FEAR Void of LOVE will build walls.


I recently heard someone say, “I will NEVER date again.”  I asked why.  She said, ” I need space to just feel safe and be myself.”     Sounds perfectly reasonable – right?   But, when I invited her to go deeper inward, She discovered the fortress she was building was not comfortable – it was cold, empty and lonely (kinda like the marriage she left behind.)  Interesting! With time, she began to see she could live safely through love.  Today, she is happily dating someone AND lovingly setting boundaries to have quality time alone.

When we live through LOVE we expand.  Life supports us… ALWAYS!

Don’t build a fortress from FEAR– build your life with LOVE.


Published by authenticbeing

I am a trained Integrative Coach Professional with the Ford Institute. I have been mentor with Lumen Worldwide. I offer several styles of coaching, uniquely tailored to meet your needs. I love sailing, exploring nature, writing and art. My passion is service. If you are interested in using me as a life-coach, feel free to contact me through my email. authenticbeingcoach@gmail.com. I offer a complimentary sample session. On Skype please indicate that you have read my blog to connect to me. Call me at 765-729-8386. take good care, Lo

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