So you’re up at two a.m! Yes two A.M! Dammit.
Can’t sleep, mind racing and all alone in your big huge bed. You saunter down to the fridge seek some comfort from the left over cheese cake from last night. Doesn’t work! Next, You grab a small glass of wine, just enough to make you sleepy. When that doesn’t work, you quickly start scrolling through the latest catches on Match, Tinder and Christian Mingle.
Really? Is this what dating has come to? Pick a picture, click, connect via brief texts, maybe go on a date and if you don’t like them — BAM back they go in the pool of possibilities for another. Now this may sound bleak but it does have an era of truth. No?
Today, our life is so busy that we resort to a fast food culture for pretty well everything. Think about it.
- Relationship finding
- Even churches have drive up style services or just live stream
Now, I am not saying that convenience isn’t a good thing BUT…
Dating is very serious business! Don’t you want to find someone who you can truly be real with? Invite to share that big bed with? Grow old with? Love forever?
It is for most people a place to find your soul mate —- right?
I am going to suggest an age-old approach:
Yes, within your own SOUL! Take lots of time to get still, to ask some life-giving questions. Not just about the list of attributes you want in that person BUT what do you give.
- Get still
- Close eyes, trust what you hear and don’t settle for anything less.
- Ask yourself how you need to show up to attract your ideal ‘soul mate’?
Start with you! Yes it starts with you. When we move from our authentic ‘soul’, we aren’t trying to become what someone desires. We are attracting someone who resonates with our most vulnerable self.
I invite you to fill yourself up from your loving soul. Not attacking this from a ‘job finding’perspective. Then click or go to social clubs or do whatever you do. The other will become attracted to your essence. The “Je ne sais quoi” is real. Magic happens when we move from within.