I was out for a drink the other night. The topic turned to sex! Yes sex.. why not! The patrons of the bar had told a group to take the conversation outside because it was ‘offensive ‘. At about that point, I arrived with my husband. Being a life coach, I was curious about the excitement outside the door.
They quickly invited us to join in.
One of the men asked me, “Does a woman like sex more than a man?” I immediately thought what a loaded question! I was perhaps going to be attacked from the woman or the men depending on my answer. I paused and the answer came, Depends?
That is an honest answer. Each of us are a unique species. Each of us have our own magic to share and it comes in many different ways. We bring our set of beliefs and emotions to the life theatre. Sex is an exciting place where all this magic can be ignited.
With more conversation, it became clear. Some people, like the patrons saw sex as ‘dirty and not a valued topic’, some wanted to go all out and even talk about swinging, a few saw it as work while others saw it as a loving act of deep intimacy. Why make any of them wrong? Each have their unique way of expressing.
In the end it comes down to a few things- Intimacy and pleasure.
Can you let that magical YOU out to play?
Are you ready to be intimate to please another?
Oh and yes- don’t forget yourself in the equation!
Everyone is unique… Loving comes in all kinds of packages.
Lorraine Rey 